The “S” Word of Home Education:
v. so·cial·ized, so·cial·iz·ing, so·cial·iz·es
To place under government or group ownership or control.
To make fit for companionship with others; make sociable.
To convert or adapt to the needs of society.
Inflected Forms: -ized also British -ised; -iz·ing also British -is·ing
: to make social; especially : to fit or train for society or a social environment <children are socialized according to a given cultural pattern —H. A. Murray & C. K. Kluckhohn>
v 1: take part in social activities; interact with others; “He never socializes with his colleagues”; “The old man hates to socialize” 2: train for a social environment; “The children must be properly socialized” 3: prepare for social life; “Children have to be socialized in school” 4: make conform to socialist ideas and philosophies; “Health care should be socialized!”
excerpted from “What About Socialization”
Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim
This word, socialization, comes up often in homeschooling egroups and in “in person” discussions.
Here are a few of my thoughts on the issue as well as some articles that I have found on the internet concerning this issue:
I once read something that said (paraphrazing) how was socialization defined as a child spending all day with peers his own age when in society, they will have to deal with people of all ages, races, etc.
Personally, I have never worried about this issue in the least although it is a very big issue on the homeschooling front. Like the article that I read said, I feel that my kids are more socially mature than some of their peers who attend school. I look at my kids and say, wow, I don’t think I was as mature when I was in school as they are now. And I think it stems from being Muslim. Islam is so comprehensive and guides your whole life and through Islam you learn to teach your children manners and character that Allah has deemed appropriate, not the manners and characters of societies where man’s laws and morals rule.
I used to think that because I had so many kids at home, that that kind of solved the socialization issue as well. They interact with me, an adult, everyday, and they have siblings of many different ages. But I have heard some with fewer children say that they feel that their children are socialized just fine.
I say, just trust in Allah and follow the Quraan and Sunnah. I would worry if a child was in total isolation all day and spoke with NO ONE else, whatsoever, (impracticable, alhamdulillah). My kids only socialize with me and their siblings on a regular basis; they don’t really have friends. But recently we have gotten to know our neighbors and my kids play just fine with their children.
Alhamdulillah, I don’t really have people to press me on this issue (and other homeschooling issues) anymore and it makes it a lot easier for me. The only other thing I say is that we know we have to be careful with whom our children keep company. And so if my children do not have any outside friends because of it, so be it. It is far worse to let your children come into contact with people who don’t share your same outlook of the deen ( i.e. are more relaxed) and then your children pick up many undesirable behaviors/viewpoints. As the saying goes, kids are like sponges. It is hard to “wring” out things they pick up elsewhere.
Just my thoughts on this issue.
A few articles that I have found on the ‘net
So than, here are some reasons home-schooling “Homeschooler’s” will miss out and lack upon social skills of other kids their own age, you may want to consider while not being part of the school system:
- Homeschooler’s will less likely to be able to relate to the drugs, violence on t.v., and the in-fashion culture.
- Homeschooler’s will less likely to get sick from bringing illness’ from the school.
- Homeschooler’s will less likely to be able to relate to violent, intimidating peers.
- Homeschooler’s will less likely to be able to converse well using profanity.
- Homeschooler’s will less likely to be able to let adults know that they are smarter than the adults.
- Homeschooler’s will be too good at conversing with adults since they have been deprived of age segregated classrooms.
- Homeschooler’s will less likely to be swayed by the opinions of their peers and are therefore less likely to fit in.
- Homeschooler’s will more likely to stay dependent on their parents.
- Homeschooler’s will more likely stay involved in religious activities instead of having the thrill of hanging out with their peers.
- Homeschooler’s will more likely put their self interests aside for others and therefore are less likely to get their “rights.”
- Homeschooler’s will more likely get a good education and therefore miss out on the thrill of working in a McDonald’s for the rest of their lives.
- Homeschooler’s will less likely have older kids instruct them to say “words your teacher has never heard come from a child’s mouth before.”
- Homeschooler’s will less likely be able to collect welfare, so they will actually have to work for a living.
- Homeschooler’s will less likely have peer pressure push them into early sexual activity so they will miss out on getting Father’s Day or Mother’s Day presents before they graduate from high school.
- Homeschooler’s will less likely follow “enlightened” ideas about dating and marriage commitments and therefore will only get to be married once.
- Homeschooler’s will never know the intimacy of gang involvement.
- Homeschooler’s will less likely be overly dependent on others so they won’t fit in as well in a one-world government.
- Homeschooler’s will never be involved in school sports so they won’t understand why being a star quarterback is more important than being well educated and kind to other people.
- Homeschooler’s will more likely grow up respecting their parents and therefore rely on them for advice instead of getting to figure everything out on their own.
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Those who missed out on above turned out to be:HOMESCHOOL ALUMNI
- John Quincy Adams – U.S. President
- Konrad Adenauer – Statesman
- Hans Christian Anderson – Favored children’s author
- Alexander Graham Bell – Inventor
- Pearl Buck – Pulitzer and Nobel prize winning author, humanitarian
- William F. Buckley, Jr. – Author, columnist, TV personality, and vocabulary wizard
- John Burroughs – Naturalist, author
- Andrew Carnegie – Industrialist
- George Washington Carver – Scientist
- Charles Chaplin – Actor
- Winston Churchill – Prime Minister of England
- Agatha Christie – Author
- George Rogers Clark – Explorer
- Noel Coward – Playwright
- Pierre Curie – Scientist
- Charles Dickens – Author
- Thomas Edison – Inventor
- Benjamin Franklin – Statesman, inventor, author
- William Henry Harrison – U. S. President
- Bret Hart – Author
- Patrick Henry – Statesman, author
- Stonewall Jackson – Confederate General
- Robert E. Lee – Confederate General
- C. S. Lewis – Author
- Abraham Lincoln – U. S. President
- Douglas MacArthur – U. S. Army General
- Cyrus McCormick – Inventor
- Tamara McKinley – 1983-84 World Cup skier
- James Madison – U. S. President
- Clad Mount – Artist, painter
- George Patton – U. S. Army General
- William Penn – Statesman, author, human liberty advocate
- Franklin Delano Roosevelt – U. S. President
- Woodrow Wilson – U. S. President
- Wright Brothers – Inventors
- Andrew Wyeth – Artist, painter
- Jamie Wyeth – Artist, painter
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